Why Men Don’t Talk

Here we go…our favorite topic…love and relationships!

Someone shared an article with me today entitled, Why Men Don’t Talk.

Ladies, how often are you frustrated at your mate’s silence when it comes to any meaningful discussion about his feelings?  “Before we got married, we talked on the phone all night.  Now, I can barely get 3 words out of him.  Maybe he doesn’t love me anymore.”

Men, how crazy do you get when your mate perceives your silence as a lack of love and concern?  “If you loved me, you would open up to me.  You don’t seem to have any problem talking to your boys!”

As always, I honestly believe that a lot of the issues facing relationships today are rooted in a lack of understanding.  More often than not, that lack of understanding is the result of mis-communication.

And I’m still learning that men and women really do have significantly different communication styles.

Check out the article and let me know what you think.

See Ya!

In response to my posting on Decisions, anonymous dropped the following comment,

“I finally realize I married the wrong person. I made my decision off of
romance (Fantasy). Reality is coming to light and now I realize I have
become what I am supposed to be and my spouse is mad cause we can’t live in Wonderland anymore. I can’t satisfy my spouse’s emotions nor her dreams. What can I do to get out of this bad decision? everyone in the real world says
she is killing me and my family. “

It sounds like someone else is trying to end a marriage.

I am becoming extremely disturbed by the number of marriages I see ending in separation and divorce. I don’t have the time to research the statistics, but I don’t think we need the statistics. Each one of us can just look around at our own personal network of friends and family and see examples.

Let me say this: I’ve been married 12 years now, and not one of those years has gone by that where I didn’t want to pack my bags and roll out. And I’m sure my wife would say the same. I think any honest husband or wife would admit that such a sentiment comes up every now and then.

Marriage is tough. So tough that you’ll wanted to quit and say, “It’s just not worth it!” Marriage is arguably the most difficult of all human relationships. It’s not just about fantasy and romance. It’s about commitment and sacrifice…and endurance.

So yes, I am a strong proponent of whatever it takes to make our marriages work. No, I don’t think anyone should remain in abusive relationships, but I think, as a culture, we’ve gotten real soft as to what we call abuse.

Find a way to make it work so that both parties are excited again about the relationship. We owe it to ourselves, our children, our communities to make our marriages work.