Walls that Keep Love Out

Thanks for the comments on yesterday’s blog.  Emotional health (wholeness) is a very interesting subject to me.

I am amazed at how emotionally unhealthy most of us are. 

Shawna commented yesterday that, unlike children, “adults have all these walls and issues that keep (others) from getting in.“ 

Well, the walls didn’t grow by themselves.  They were strategically built to protect the heart of the builder from getting hurt again.  When a heart is broken, the walls go up.  When the walls go up, people can’t get in.  Soon, you’ve got a very lonely individual!

Call me crazy, but I believe it is our nature to love.  I believe that we were born with a natural inclination to be concerned about other people. 

It is after being hurt and deceived that we start making arguments for the futility of love.  It is after getting dogged out that we convince ourselves that we don’t need anybody, and that we can be fine all by ourselves.

For those who feel that the love you extend to others is rarely, if ever, reciprocated, I suggest you look to see if you’ve built any walls around your heart. 

It may be YOUR FAULT that the love is not getting in.

Confession is Good for the Soul

Last week was interesting.  The posts and the responses revealed that our relationships are in dire need of some help.  Let me clarify that…people need help–and stronger people should help create stronger relationships.

I’ve noticed in the comments last week and throughout the conversations that were provoked by the blog that people feel better after they talk about things.  It appears that talking actually is therapeutic and initiates the healing process.

Part of our discomfort in certain situations is a direct result of holding things in.  Whether we are in denial, trying to hide stuff from others, or just trying to avoid the pain associated with an issue, holding things in does not help.  Find somebody to talk to!

Keep this in mind…confession doesn’t not mean YOU have done something wrong.  It’s simply stating the issues of your heart.  Let it out.  It’ll be good for your soul.