10 Things You Should Never Say to a Guy

I saw this article today on MSN.

Let me know what you think…

Here’s a look at 10 things women say that drive men nuts.

1) ”That looks cute.”
For the most part, men hate cute. We don’t want to hear about it, we don’t want to see it, and we sure as hell don’t want to be it. If we come down stairs after getting dressed and you tell us we look cute, there’s a 100 percent chance we’re changing. We’re supposed to be your protector, your rock, and cute does not fit into that picture.

2) ”We need to talk.”
These four words shut off a man’s brain faster than long division. When men hear you say that they immediately go into flight mode. And anything they can do to get out of this conversation—and better yet, your apartment—they will. There are plenty of other ways to approach a delicate conversation, and getting us in a place where we feel comfortable is a good start.

3) ”It’s just a game.”
Actually, it’s not just a game. Sports are a major part of our lives and the outcome has as much to do with our mood as just about anything else. Is it fair? No. Is it right? No. Is it immature? Maybe. But it’s life. Sometimes we just care too much. We understand that it doesn’t make sense, but you should be happy that we’re that passionate about something. Telling us that “it’s just a game” is like us telling you that Oprah’s just a talk show host.

4) ”Nothing’s wrong.”
Please don’t tell us nothing’s wrong. The look on your face could make the toughest guy on the planet weep like a third-grade girl and your arms are crossed so tight you might explode. We’re not mind readers; tell us what’s going on. And don’t make us guess because—believe me—you won’t like what we come up with.

5) ”I sound like my mom.”
The mere fact that you might turn into your mom someday scares the hell out of us. Don’t say it, even in jest—it’s not funny. We actually believe (and pray) that the saying “every woman ends up looking like their mother” is an old wives’ tale. If we didn’t, no one would ever get married.

6) ”I just want to be friends.”
No you don’t. You just want us to stop calling you. This is a lot like pulling off a band-aid. Do it quick—don’t prolong the agony. Most of us take “I just want to be friends” as “There’s still a chance,” so if there isn’t just make it a clean break and move on.  Everyone will be much better because of it.

7) ”Size doesn’t matter.”
Don’t lie to us. We know it does, and we’re doing our best to make up for it in other ways. It’s best just to not say anything at all.

8) ”What are you wearing?”
We’re wearing whatever’s clean or whatever you tell us to. We don’t plan out our wardrobe days in advance, but we do actually try and look presentable. It may not work a lot of the time, but we do give it a shot. Giving us direction is completely encouraged though, so go ahead and suggest … nicely.

9) ”Do you think she’s pretty?”
Of course we do, our standards are much lower than yours. But just because we check her out doesn’t mean we think any less of you. We try to be as discreet as possible, but for the most part, we can’t help it. It’s in our DNA. When an attractive woman walks by, it’s best to just pretend nothing happened.

10) ”Which outfit do you like better?”
I’m going to be honest here—90 percent of the guys out there are not going to tell you which outfit they like better: They’re going to try to pick the one you like better and not get into a holy war when the babysitter is due any minute. To us, you always look good. Getting a couple cocktails and spending as much time as we can without the kids is our ultimate goal for a rare night out.

Keeping HER Crazy in Love

Alright, let’s get this straight.  I didn’t write the article, What keeps a Man Crazy in Love?.  I just brought it to your attention with the blog entitled, All Men Want the Same Thing.  However, the comments clearly reflected a sentiment that women do enough already.  And at this point, the ladies felt that the men should be stepping up their game to keep them crazy in love.

In other words, if the love has diminished, it is because the men are slacking!  They said that husbands still expect them to work all day (whether at home or in the workforce), take care of the kids, keep the house clean, pay the bills, and THEN prepare and serve them dinner in a thong!

I was even asked to find an article that enumerated the 12 things a MAN should do to keep his woman crazy in love.  It sounds like we’ve got a bad case of virtual finger-pointing here that needs to be addressed.

The point of the last blog was not to engage in the “blame game”, nor was it to “throw the sistahs under the bus”. 

My intent was to communicate that men are generally very simple creatures, and that it really is not hard to figure out what makes them happy.

Now, back to the request to come up with 12 things a man should do to keep his woman crazy in love…

How about we write that one ourselves?  Any ideas?

 

All Men Want the Same Thing

For all the women out there trying to keep a happy home, (and for all you women out there that have no clue), maybe this article will help.

What Keeps A Man Crazy in Love?

The article lists 12 things that a woman should do to keep her man crazy in love:

Play Poker, Give the Perfect Backrub, Tie His Tie for him, Make a Mean Steak for him, Wake him up in the Morning, Give him a Barbershop Shave, Strip, Have a conversation with his boss, Throw him a surprise party, Leave him a sexy voicemail at work, Quote at least three lines from The Godfather, Make heart-melting chocolate-chip cookies, and Kick his style up a notch.

I find it interesting that, although no two men are alike, there are some general ground-rules regarding what most men are looking for from their wives.  Despite cultural or ethnic differences, socio-economic variations, and even various age groups, most of things on the list seem to resonate with men across the board.

Are men that homogenous?  Are we that simple to figure out?

What do you think?

 

Too Weak to Handle a Strong Woman

Let’s just get right to it…Men are intimidated by strong, successful women.

There.  I said it! 

I read an article recently that started this way, “The majority of my most successful, good-looking, educated, talented girlfriends are still single.” (click here to read article)

Is it that men don’t want to deal with the challenges of a woman who works long hours, possibly makes more money than him, and doesn’t require him to make decisions for her?

Or, are “successful” women too bossy, demanding, and selfish to make good mates?

Let me know what you think.

Why Men Don’t Talk

Here we go…our favorite topic…love and relationships!

Someone shared an article with me today entitled, Why Men Don’t Talk.

Ladies, how often are you frustrated at your mate’s silence when it comes to any meaningful discussion about his feelings?  “Before we got married, we talked on the phone all night.  Now, I can barely get 3 words out of him.  Maybe he doesn’t love me anymore.”

Men, how crazy do you get when your mate perceives your silence as a lack of love and concern?  “If you loved me, you would open up to me.  You don’t seem to have any problem talking to your boys!”

As always, I honestly believe that a lot of the issues facing relationships today are rooted in a lack of understanding.  More often than not, that lack of understanding is the result of mis-communication.

And I’m still learning that men and women really do have significantly different communication styles.

Check out the article and let me know what you think.

The 9 Words Women Use

Have a SUPER weekend!

The 9 Words Women use… 

1. Fine : This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means “something”, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with “nothing” usually end in “Fine”.

4. Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. My advice…Don’t Do It!

5. Loud Sigh: This is actually not a word, but a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time arguing with you about nothing.  (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

6. That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. “That’s okay” means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

7. Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question why, or Faint. Just say, “you’re welcome.”

8. Whatever: Is a women’s way of using an expletive without actually saying it!

9. Don’t worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to #3.

*Send this to the men you know, to warn them about arguments they can avoid if they remember the terminology.

*Send this to all the women you know to give them a good laugh…they know it’s true!

 Does this sound like your house?

Men Changing Diapers

Alanna,

Thanks for sharing this…I needed it!

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