Why Keep Making Babies?

A femle friend of mine asked me a simple question today…

If a man clearly is not happy in a relationship, why does he keep making babies with the woman?

Unfortunately, we probably all know at least one couple whose relationship is rockier than the mountains.  Yet, every year, they seem to be having another kid to add to the collection.

I think the reason behind this has to do with the motivations of the two parties involved. 

Men will take what they can get.  Regardless of the uncertainty of the relationship, if she will still sleep with him, he’ll take it!  I don’t think he’s really thinking about the possibility of fathering another child…he’s just enjoying himself while he can.

Women, on the other hand, may use sex to try to keep him in the relationship.  If she thinks that the good lovin’ will keep him there (until they work out the other issues), then she will put herself at risk to having another child.  I would hate to think (and I know it happens) that a woman would get pregnant on purpose in order to keep connected to a man.  In my opinion, using a child to keep a man, is about as irresponsible as it gets!

What do you think?  Why do “couples” that can barely stand each other keep having babies together?

Not Tonight, Honey

In response to yesterday’s very interesting blog, B left the following comment…

“it’s something about saying “I Do” that puts shopping over sex…All the married men out there know exactly what I am talking about…”

I don’t mean to put words in his mouth, but there’s an implication there that suggests that the response might be different if the question is asked BEFORE the couple gets married.  In other words, sex is better–in quality AND quantity–before the marriage.

If that is true (and I’d be interested to hear if you agree), why do you think that is the case?

Let me make myself clear: I believe that sex is to occur among individuals married to each other.  My intent here is to have a meaningful “dialogue” that confronts an issue among married couples that is rarely properly addressed.

Essentially the question is, Do you believe that the sexual relationship tends to get worse, and not better, over the course of the marriage?  And if so, why?