Mommy is 15, But Daddy is 13

Thanks, Phyllis for passing this along…

There’s been a running debate in my family about old men having babies with young women.  Recently, I’ve heard about quite a few men over 70, still sowing their wild oats, and getting younger women pregnant.  My mom clearly does not believe that the old men have “soldiers” strong enough to fertilize those eggs, and strongly recommends that paternity tests be taken before these seniors take responsibility. 

But that’s another story…

This story falls on the other extreme: a 15 year old mom and a 13 YEAR OLD DAD!  (check out the article)

I don’t know if this paper is the UK equivalent of the National Enquirer, so I don’t know how true the story is.*  But whether it’s true or not, I think the article should provoke a discussion about not just teenage sex/pregnancy but also PRE-TEEN sex and pregnancy.

At what age should we start having the conversation about the “birds and the bees” with our children?  

*Later reports state that DNA test results prove that the 13 year old boy is not the father.  But again, the discussion is about pre-teen sex – not just this particular case.

Seven Kinds of Sex

I thought my married couples might get a kick out of this one.  (For what it’s worth, this was passed along to me by a mature, ordained Senior Deacon.)

SEVEN KINDS OF SEX

 

Results of a recent research shows that there are 7 kinds of sex.

 

The 1st kind of sex is called: Smurf Sex.

*This kind of sex happens when you first meet someone, and you both have sex until you are blue in the face.

 

The 2nd kind of sex is called: Kitchen Sex.

* This is when you have been with your partner for a short time, and you are so needy you will have sex anywhere, even in the kitchen.

 

The 3rd kind of sex is called: Bedroom Sex.

* This is when you have been with your partner for a long time. Your sex has gotten routine ,and you usually have sex only in your bedroom.

 

The 4th kind of sex is called: Hallway Sex

* This is when you have been with your partner for too long. When you pass each other in the hallway you both say ’screw you.’

 

The 5th kind of sex is called: Religious Sex.

* Which means you get Nun in the morning, Nun in the afternoon and Nun at night. (Very Popular)

 

The 6th kind is called Courtroom Sex.

* This is when you cannot stand your wife any more. She takes you to court and screws you in front of everyone.

 

And; Last, but not least, The 7th kind of sex is called: Social Security Sex.

* You get a little each month. But not enough to enjoy yourself.

PLEASE DO NOT TELL ME WHAT STAGE YOU ARE IN…I DON’T WANT TO KNOW!

What’s Wrong With My Butt?

Hasani is back on Relationship Wednesday.  Check this out…

Countless young black women who suffer from poor body image spend their precious time trying to achieve the perfect video model’s body in order to appeal to Black men.

But what about when that black man is your husband? There are countless women who feel inadequate because their husbands desire more than what they can offer. A question from a suffering spouse was recently posted on my website www.therelationshipsexpert.com. Here’s another woman who’s a victim of the butt craze. She writes:

I am painfully hurt by my husband’s admission that he is and never really was sexually attracted to me as much as he could be if I were a woman with a big behind. Our black culture dictates that I must now have a big behind to be considered attractive.

By most standards I am attractive and smart. My husband, otherwise, says I am a good wife and he loves me. We barely make love and his favorite sites are sites of women with big behinds. I am envious and jealous I admit. Not really because of their big butts but because he greatly desires what I don’t have. Faithful to my marriage I feel that I have no recourse.

I am currently working out and am in decent shape. We do not want to divorce, but I always feel like he’s looking on the other side of the fence. The reality is that he wants what I don’t have. How do I handle this? I am slowly healing from the obsession of it all and his lack of sexual interest in me.

He says he’s always felt this way but tried not to be shallow. My pain seems unbearable at times. What do you suggest? I am currently working on getting a “butt job” done just to hopefully be able to fulfill his “needs” as a wife. Intellectually, i know he sounds like a shallow person and I could make the argument that my butt should not define my sex relationship with my hubby but reality says otherwise…This has put a strain on our sex life and he thinks I’m overreacting, which makes me suspicious because he seems to accept it too easily. Why is it this way? Why aren’t brains and beauty enough? There is no worse feeling than being with someone who doesn’t want you sexually.

What are your thoughts?

 

Would You Consider Sex With A Robot?

Speaking of sex…Hasani’s back on Relationship Wednesday with some news that might “crash your hard drive.”

Imagine a robot that looks, sounds, smells, and feels exactly like your former, current, or dream-about-in-the-future, lover. Imagine that this robot has access to the instruction from every sex manual, sex column, and infomercial website that has ever been produced, and can synthesize this data into concrete action and sexual behavior. Imagine this robot has software that continually evolves, becoming a more attentive lover, a more appealing partner, changing it’s voice, appearance, and behavior based on how you interact with it, all the while using fewer and fewer resources to achieve this goal.

Well…imagine no more. By 2012, it is projected that humans will be able to have sex with robots.

In fact, by 2050, humans will be able to marry robots. Sound far fetched? Think again. I am not talking about R2D2-like robot from the epic movie Star Wars. Rather, the erotic android sexbots introduced in Austin Powers.

In addition to having arms, legs and a head, sexual robots will also have human-sized genitalia. Japanese scientists have already unveiled the most human-looking robot to date, well at least in the public domain. Secret research is being done now which looks towards the future to build robots so real they will fool humans, in other words they maybe sitting next to you and you would never even know it. New skin technologies will allow the robots to have real human skin grown in petri dishes which will be incorporated in the sexual revolution of robots.

So, what do you think? Would you consider having sex with a robot?

Belief is Like Sex

Man, that word gets people’s attention every time!

Yesterday, I talked about being a believer.  Jesus taught that all things are possible to him that believes.  With that said, I’m trying to be a better believer!  And the more I think about it, the more I realize that sex is a good model for what it means to be a believer.

To conceive means to become pregnant with (young), as in conceive a child.  We know how this works, right?  A woman takes in sperm from a man in order to fertilize the eggs that she carries. 

However, the second definition of the word conceive means to take into one’s mind. 

In the same way as the sexual act, an idea or thought (sperm) is taken into your mind (the womb), where CONCEPTION takes place.  There can be no conception, and nothing produced, if we do not receive words of truth into our hearts and minds.  That’s what belief is all about!

There are people carrying great potential.  However, their minds are closed.  As a result, conception does not occur and nothing is produced.

There’s so much more that you can produce.  In fact, anything is possible if you just open up your mind…and believe!

Who You Callin A Ho?

Hasani’s back at it again.  Forcing us to look at life for what it IS, not what we wish it to be.  (For those of you who are uncomfortable with the language, please don’t get stuck on the words.  Please hear the message.)

 

There are many women who love Hip Hop music. The BIG question is: Does it love them back?

 

From its inception, black women have had to defend themselves against the art form.

 

Sexist and mysogynist messages have either been created or perpetuated by those within the industry. Black women are commonly referred to by the following names: bitch, ho, trick, tramp, hoochie, gold digger, slut, skeezah, bird, chicken head, slore, cunt, tip drill, butta head, smut, noodle, scank, jawn, hood rat, shorty, wifey, heifer, bust it baby and countless more…(you may not know what all of them mean but they are ALL derogatory)

 

These are the lyrics your mothers, daughters, grandaughters, nieces, sisters (and even some of you) listen and dance to on a regular basis.

 

One woman said it best: “Being in love with Hip Hop is like being in an abusive relationship with a man who beats you, cheats on you and constantly disrespects you, but you stay because you love him.”

 

What are your thoughts on this topic?

 

Why I Don’t Want A Black Woman

It’s Relationship Wednesday.  Which means it’s Hasani’s turn to get us all thinking today… 

I’m writing a book entitled ‘Why We Hate Black Women: Deconstructing The Paradox of Black Female Masculinity.’

In my research I discovered that a lot of black men are no longer interested in dating/marrying black women. In fact, a list of 50 reasons was compiled. 

Listed below are the top 10 out of 50 reasons why Black men find it hard to date Black women:
1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.
2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.
3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.
4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.
5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.
6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.
8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex.
9. Black women’s tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man’s struggle in white
America.
10. Black women do not cater to their men.

 

 

What are your thoughts about this list? Please be specific!

Should 11 Year Olds Learn To Put On A Condom?

Hasani’s back with another challenging thought for us…

A government report now declares that Children as young as 11 should be given compulsory sex education including lessons on how to put on a condom. But family rights campaigners criticized the plan, saying it was appalling that teachers could give explicit lessons on sex to children even if local parents were opposed.

What are your thoughts? Think about YOUR 11-year old child. What type of sex education is appropriate AND would you want YOUR CHILD to be taught a 16 step-by-step process on the proper usage of a condom?

Porn In Your Marriage

Hasani’s back on “Relationship Wednesday” with some provocative questions…

Sunday Night I was a guest on a TV-One Television Show Called Black Men Reveal. There was a former-Pimp, a comedian and me as a sex & relationship expert. Anyway, the topic of strip clubs and pornography came up. I explained how pornography is damaging to a marriage.

After the show, a member of my church emailed me and said that he disagrees with my position on pornography, strip clubs and threesomes. (That’s Right, You Read Correctly!)

Questions:

1) What Place Do You Think Pornography Has In The Confines Of Marriage?

2) Do You Think That It Can Enhance or Harm Your Relationship?

 

If you want to watch the show it comes on TONIGHT, Wednesday at 10:00pm (EST)

Check the link below for your local listing

http://www.tvoneonline.com/inside_tvone/channel_listings.asp
 
Check the link below to find out more about the show
http://www.tvoneonline.com/shows/show.asp?sid=655&id=2026

8 Things She Hates About You

I saw this article today and thought I’d share it on the blog.  (Here’s the original article.)  These are 8 things that men do that annoy their significant others…

ANNOYANCE #1

You don’t pick up after yourself at our place.

Actually, we really don’t mind if you’re a little messy. An empty beer bottle here or dirty T-shirt there–no problem. But when we start seeing pieces of you (literally) all over the place, we tend to go off. Like when we find your hairs all over our bar of Dove, or toenail clippings on the nightstand, or a pile of chewed-out sunflower-seed shells on the counter. Please clean that up before we see it and want to gag. And then we’ll promise to be better about leaving globs of our hair in your shower drain. Do we have a deal?

ANNOYANCE #2

You ask how much our new haircut or handbag costs…

…yet conveniently don’t mention your sportsbook.com account or the $200 you lost on the NCAA parlay. Until we’re sharing a bank account with you, we’re not all that interested in your opinions on how we should or should not spend our money. And if we are sharing a bank account, here’s something you should know: Reminding us when we’re in the throes of post-retail bliss that we just blew all our disposable income for the month is not going to endear you to us. The perfect boyfriend response: “Wow, [fierce/sexy/hot] new [haircut/handbag/lingerie item]. I guess dinner is on me tonight!” Then wait a few days to bring up your financial concerns, by proposing we both start saving for something we want to buy together.

ANNOYANCE #3

You talk to us as if we’re one of the guys.

If you have any romantic inclinations toward us, please don’t call us by our last name. Otherwise we’ll assume we’ve already been relegated to buddy status and start thinking of you that way, too. Also, you’ll rarely find us holding entire conversations in  Simpsons and Old School quotes. Similarly, we don’t talk in numbers the same way men tend to. We’re happy to see evidence of your improvements at the gym, but we really don’t need to know how much you can bench-press. We also couldn’t care less about your day rate, the price of your car, or the number of beers you once shotgunned in college. And fantasy-league anything will make us flirt hard with the waiter. No, the conversation doesn’t have to be all about us, but we do want you to shoot for topics of mutual interest.

ANNOYANCE #4

You speak of the future vaguely.

Men seem to have perfected a special way of talking about the future that makes it unclear whether we’re a part of it or not. Or maybe you don’t know you’re doing this? For instance, you frequently mention your buddy’s wedding in another state 6 months from now and you haven’t asked us to go with you. Or you have a month long international business trip coming up but haven’t asked us whether we’d like to come for a weekend visit. If you picture us in your future, try talking about these things in such a way that we’ll stick around for it.

ANNOYANCE #5

You stop trying.

You have us as your wife or girlfriend. We’re committed to the situation, and all is good. But pretty soon you stop trying to impress us–and we don’t like that. “Now that we’re married, he never tries to ‘win me’ anymore,” says one friend. “If he wants to come on to me, he needs to ditch his gross dress socks and gym clothes and make an effort. Otherwise he ain’t getting any. Also, there is less foreplay and it’s more routine, which I hate. After 7 years, a man’s got to bust some new moves.” Or at least bring back a few of the retired ones that used to work. Like simply bringing home a pizza, a bottle of wine, and some flowers when we’ve had a bad day. Bring back the woo. We want the woo!

ANNOYANCE #6

You blatantly look at porn.

We don’t care that you masturbate, and we can’t change the fact that you might occasionally browse the fine and varied selection of naked ladies on the Internet. But if you’re looking at porn on a computer we also use, kindly delete your history. We don’t want amazonbabes.com to pop up every time we want to do some shopping or, worse, when your mother’s over and an underwearless young starlet showing her bald spot appears as we’re showing Mom something online.

ANNOYANCE #7

You turn down sex.

When it so happens that we’re the one who wants sex and you’re the one who doesn’t, we find your refusal to be confusing and irritating. Reassure us that we’re attractive and that you love us, but that you just aren’t in the mood. It helps to throw out a hint at what’s going on–that you’re tired, depressed, anxious at work, whatever, says Aline Zoldbrod, Ph.D., a Boston-area psychologist. That way we won’t obsess or be too pouty or aggressive. If we happen to be fresh off a girls’ night out liquored up and ready for sex, which you’re refusing, tread extra carefully. Horny can change to emotional, crying wreckage very quickly when your girl has a couple of glasses of Prosecco in her.

ANNOYANCE #8

You ask us out via text.

Texting is fast and easy and leads to sexy banter–but save it until after the first date. Calling a woman to ask her out is much more personal. It takes more effort (and balls), which is exactly what we find so sexy about your doing it. Okay, it’s an unfair burden for you, but it comes with an advantage: It makes you stand out from the mass of other men who text instead of calling. “So many people are conditioned to communicate through text messages that to receive a phone call or even an e-mail feels like a generously romantic gesture,” says Kristina Grish, author of The Joy of Text: Mating, Dating, and Techno-Relating. Another thing: Don’t include us in any mass texts you bang off to half the female names in your address book at 10 p.m., expecting one of us to come rushing out to meet you for the night. “Women know when your ‘plans 2nite?’ texts are generic, and when they’re intended to specifically address them,” Grish says. “You have so few characters to make a succinct point, but tuck an inside joke or reference into the message to make it personal, sexy, and fun.”